by Jennifer Nguyen | Apr 8, 2021 | community, Connection, News
As I was sitting at a local SF eatery earlier this year in March, a man walked across the street and yelled, “F*** China!”. I was confused because I assumed SF being a very progressive and largely accepting city. I was angry because this person felt compelled to yell such negatively driven phrase for all to hear. I was sad that I witnessed this in the 21st century and during what I would have considered a peaceful dinner out. Racial discrimination is still happening, and I believe that it will continue to happen. However, I also believe that society has made progress in bridging the gap between the words of ‘others’ and ‘us’. There is still much more work to do, and I can hope that we continue to make progress towards unity. In this second article feature, I will briefly describe my family’s journey to the United States of America as well as my continual journey to balance between my two identities as an Asian American. I will also share some guidance in exploring one’s racial identity.
My family immigrated to America in 1990 in hopes to pursue the ‘American Dream’ apart from Vietnam. Their dreams, goals, and hopes were very similar to those of who seek out this dream. My parents wanted a more sustainable lifestyle and a brighter future for their growing family. My family often remind me of my mom’s health condition during their move here. She was 6 months pregnant with me!
Growing up, I teetered in finding the balance between social/familial norms in American culture and the expectations within my traditional Vietnamese home. There were times when I thought I was appropriately expressing my emotions while my parents had a hard time understanding them (Side Note: I wanted to share my emotions like I saw my friends doing with their parents. Mental health and emotions was a big learning curve for a family to grasp due to its absence in Vietnamese culture). I internalized the standard for beauty was having blonde/ light colored hair, light colored eyes, and light colored skin. I remember asking my father to go to the local drugstore and picking out the blonde hair color box. I begged him to lift my extremely dark hair to look like the hair color on the box. To my dismay, he gently reminded me that the color would not lift my natural hair color. I insisted that he tried, and he lovingly did. I was disappointed to find out that he was right when the box color barely lifted my hair color to an auburn. This is just one of the times I attempted to change my appearance. I tried to change the color of my eyes by wearing colored contacts. I felt deep embarrassment that I looked different than my community who were largely white/Caucasian. Not only did I differ in physical appearance, I was also different in my upbringing. When I had an opportunity to stay overnight for a friend’s birthday, I tried to convince my parents to let me stay. My parents strongly disagreed because it was not part of our cultural to sleep at someone else’s house when we had our own. So, I left the birthday party late at night when my dad picked me up. These are just a few examples of the pull I felt growing up identifying as bicultural. I often felt confused and had difficulties gauging what was considered right or wrong. I didn’t know how to reconcile my conflict between both cultural standards. I didn’t fully identify with one culture over the other. If I spoke my mind and shared my opinions that may have differed from my parents, it was considered as disrespecting the very people who raised me. If I didn’t do exactly what my peers did for fun and entertainment, my family was viewed as strict. If I enjoyed eating different body parts of an animal that normally wouldn’t be appetizing to my friends, I was judged hearing statements such as “gross”, “that’s nasty”, and “you guys eat THAT?”. I also felt embarrassed. I felt hurt. I felt ostracized. It wasn’t until I found a term that I strongly identify with through my exploration of my Vietnamese culture and trip to Vietnam in 2011. When I first heard of the word, “Asian- America”, my world opened up. I finally felt understood for being first generation born in America and growing up in a traditional Vietnamese home. I felt relief to know that both parts of me can and needs to coexist to feel fully me. Below are some guiding tips to explore one’s cultural identity:
1. Ask questions and lots of them!
• It is our human condition to have an innate desire to feel heard, seen, and understood. This allows space for us to feel loved and to have a sense of belonging. My recommendation to jumpstart your journey in finding your own cultural identity would be to ask lots of questions about your own history. If you have family members or others who might know your history, I found that asking questions has opened opportunities for me to hear stories of my family’s journey to America. By hearing these stories, it allowed me to have compassion and understanding of their assimilation process instead of making assumptions about their intentions.
2. Share your experiences with others.
Through my experience of discovering my cultural identity, I had the opportunity to share my experiences with other Asian Americans in a safe setting. I shared some of my painful experiences during meetings, and it was helpful to know that I wasn’t only in my experiences. It was relieving to hear others’ experience as they were very similar to mine. It felt normalizing.
3. If or when this is in your realm of possibilities, travel!
• My trip to Vietnam was life changing for me. I was able to gain more perspective to my parents’ way of life and have greater compassion for my family’s experience assimilating to America. I believe travel is a wonderful opportunity for us to have a different perspective of life and meaning.
by admin | Mar 31, 2021 | community, Mental Health, News, Nutrition
The National Eating Disorder Association will be having the annual NEDA Walk on April 10th, 2021. This year will be a virtual walk event to help provide a safe way to interact during the pandemic, but you can still get involved by hosting or joining a virtual team or making a financial contribution.
Per NEDA, 30 million Americans suffer from an Eating Disorder and the NEDA Walk is a great way to increase awareness and access to recovery. It is likely that you know someone in your live who is suffering from an Eating Disorder, and the NEDA walk can be a great way to show your support for your loved one and their recovery journey. If you are a person who is suffering from an Eating Disorder, know that there is help out there and that you deserve care and support in your recovery journey.
TheraCare Wellness is participating in the NEDA Walk this year and would love to have you join our team. We are a team of Psychologists, Psychiatrists, Therapists, Registered Dietitians, and Acupuncturists that want to help raise awareness to the Eating Disorder Recovery process. You can join our team or make a financial contribution by going here: http://neda.nationaleatingdisorders.org/goto/theracarewellness
We had the opportunity to chat with Joan DeFilippo, Director of Fundraising and Community Engagement at The National Eating Disorder Association, this week about the NEDA Walk. The year for the NEDA walk, individuals can create their own team, fundraise as individuals or as team members, or donate a financial contribution. There are also many volunteer opportunities if a financial contribution is not accessible for some.
Because this year the walk will not be in person, NEDA will be offering a live zoom session on April 10th at 11 AM PST and will include guest speakers, an MC, a musical performance, and a photo booth. Many people are choosing to meet as a family in the safety of their homes, or safely social distance to be able to engage with loved ones. After the zoom meeting, participants will have the option to walk a mile. For some participants, exercise might be restricted due to their individualized movement plan and needs, so folks are being encouraged to explore with their treatment team or providers if they are cleared for this level of movement.
If you would like to get involved with volunteer opportunities, you can reach NEDA via email at email@example.com Volunteers are needed and can help out by calling participants and reaching out to past participants, posting on social media, or even creating their own recovery journey videos to raise awareness. When someone has a story to tell, their story may impact others and raise awareness to the help that NEDA can provide.
by admin | Mar 25, 2021 | community, News
Women’s History Month is during March every year, and International Women’s Day is March 8 th . There are many ways to celebrate and honor Women’s History Month. Here are some ideas to help you get started:
1. Read books supporting women during Women’s History Month. Learn more by going here: https://www.cnn.com/2021/03/01/cnn-underscored/womens-history-month-books
2. Watch documentaries that provide education on Women’s History. Learn more by going here: https://www.pbs.org/articles/2021/03/what-to-watch-womens-history-month-2021/ Watch an episode of the Smithsonian Institution’s episode of Social Studies Online on Women’s History Month. Learn more by going here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UUyH3LPBv2Q
3. Watch movies that display empowering stories of women. Learn more by going here: https://redtri.com/10-inspiring-movies-for-womens-history-month-to-watch-with-your-kids/
4. You can give back to the community during Women’s History month by making a financial contribution, or a contribution of time through volunteer work. Give back by making a charitable donation to an organization that supports women and girls. Learn more by going here: https://www.charitynavigator.org/index.cfm?bay=content.view&amp;cpid=2133 You can also learn more by going here: https://www.bustle.com/p/where-to-donate-during-womens-history-month-2020-22588039 Get engaged in virtual volunteer work focused on Women’s History Month. Learn more by going here: https://goodera.com/blog/virtual-volunteering/15-virtualvolunteering-opportunities-to-celebrate-international-womens-day/
5. Get connected to the art world by visiting a virtual museum, such as the Nation Women’s History Museum. Learn more by going here: https://www.womenshistory.org/womens-history/online-exhibits or the National Museum of Women in the Arts. Learn more by going here: https://nmwa.org/support/advocacy/
6. Learn about Women’s History and the Right to vote for this year’s theme of Women’s History Month, “Valiant Women of the Vote: Refusing to Be Silenced” Learn more by going here: https://nationalwomenshistoryalliance.org/
7. Honor trans women by learning about historical events of trans women during women’s history month. Learn more by going here: https://transgenderlawcenter.org/archives/10002 Learn about the need for inclusivity and representation of trans women during women’s history month. Learn more by going here: : https://temple-news.com/trans-women-seek-more-inclusivity-during-womens-history-month/ Learn about how Black trans women aid in the fight
for women’s rights. Learn more by going here: https://www.harpersbazaar.com/culture/features/a35746428/black-trans-women-fight-for-womens-rights/
8. Listen to a playlist in honor of Women’s History Month. The Grammy Awards put together a playlist of women nominees for 2021. Learn more by going here:
https://www.grammy.com/grammys/news/listen-womens-history-month-playlist-nominees-2021-grammy-awards-show You can also listen to a stream of music by women composers. Learn more by going here: https://www.yourclassical.org/listen/women-history Peloton added a playlist for Women’s History Month on Spotify. Learn more by going here: https://open.spotify.com/playlist/3GvFgvZOxlwJ64oXaFhyTf
9. Listen to podcasts about Stories for Women’s History Month. Learn more by going here: https://blog.listenwise.com/2019/01/stories-womens-history-month/ Listen to podcasts about remarkable ladies for Women’s History Month. Learn more by going here: https://www.radio.com/news/gallery/podcasts-about-remarkable-ladies
10. Journal about a public figure or icon that represent women’s empowerment for you. Identify what inspires you about this woman, what about her you want to emulate, and how she has made a difference in your life directly. Write a letter to a woman in your life that inspires you. This might include a family member or member of your extended family, a friend or colleague, a teacher or a mentor or a supervisor that you look up to, or even someone you know casually. We hope this list helps you identify opportunities to get connected during Women’s History Month!
by Jennifer Nguyen | Mar 25, 2021 | community, Emotional Health, News
It is not news to report that we, as a society, have been experiencing an immense amount of fear, confusion, and frustration this year. We have and are still navigating the unpredictable measures related to COVID-19 and reinventing our daily norms at a moment’s notice. Even though our nation has been under attack by this contagion for over a year now, it has shed light on another contagion that plagued us well before COVID-19: our nation’s history with racism and hate crimes, specifically related to the Asian American and Pacific Islander (AAPI) community. In this 3 part series, I will begin by sharing a few statistics from this year’s uptick in AAPI hate crimes and practical ways one can engage in support our AAPI community. Then, I will share my experience with racism and my journey of finding my racial identity. Finally, I will end the series by sharing TheraCare’s value in providing an all- inclusive therapeutic experience for all who are seeking support.
On January 28, 2021, Vicha Ratanapakdee was taking his morning stroll in San Francisco, CA. He was pushed to the ground in broad daylight resulting in injuries. He died a few days later. This is just one incident that received media attention amongst many hate crimes towards Asian Americans this year. According to the STOP AAPI HATE (an organization documenting anti-Asian hate in the midst of COVID-19) National Report, there have been 3,795 incidents received from March 19, 2020 to February 28, 2021. Out of the 3,9975 cases, 503 cases reported just in the beginning of 2021. The majority of these cases reported as verbal harassments and shunning as main forms of discrimination (68.1% and 20.5 %, respectively). Moreover, women are 2.3 times more than men to report cases. I also wonder if an aspect of under-reporting is impacted by cultural standards/ influences of “saving face” and gender role expectations.. There has also been a signifiant difference between various Asian communities experiencing these hate crimes. The Chinese community is the largest community to experience hate (42.2%), followed by Koreans (14.8%), Vietnamese (8.5%), and Filipino (7.9%). In many major cities, AAPI hate crimes have increased to at least 50 % (see graph below).
These statistics and stories may lead you to feel lots of different emotions: despair, heartache, anger, and/or activated in some type of way. Fear not (!), there are some practical ways to hopefully provide some helpful tips around supporting your AAPI community:
- Stay Curious
- I believe a strong way to support the AAPI community is simply to stay curious about their experiences in their community. If they are feeling the weight of their experiences of discrimination and racism, ask if there is something you can do directly to support them. Try not to assume that everyone in the AAPI community needs or wants help at the moment. The best, most powerful act that we can do for one another is to listen.
2. Support an AAPI organization/ local businesses
- Here are some AAPI organizations that you could monetarily support and/or volunteer at:
- https://stopaapihate.org– Organization that is tracking anti- Asian hate during COVID-19
- https://aaci.org– Non-profit mental health agency located in the heart of San Jose
- https://dearasiansinitiative.carrd.co – Organization that works to bridge the gap between #BLM movement and anti- Blackness in the Asian community through translated letters to create unity amongst minorities.
3. Be an ally and educate yourself.
I will leave you with this. Amanda Nguyen, a social entrepreneur and civil rights activist, eloquently said: “It’s important to not just compare issues across communities, but rather work together in solidarity, Justice is a fabric that has threads from all different communities.”
– Jennifer Nguyen, AMFT
by admin | Mar 25, 2021 | community, Nutrition
The National Eating Disorder Association hosts NEDA week every year to raise awareness about eating disorders, and this year NEDA week is from February 22 – 28. You might be interested in learning more, but might not know where to start. We put together this collection of resources to support individuals who are in their recovery journey, loved ones supporting someone in recovery, or professionals who want to provide excellent care to their clients. Year round, NEDA offers amazing services such as a hotline that can be reached at 800-931-2237 (or text “NEDA” to 741741). They also offer an online chat option on their website. Learn more about NEDA by going here: https://www.nationaleatingdisorders.org/get-involved/nedawareness You can also join the annual NEDA walk, which on the west coast will be on April 10, 2021, and helps raise awareness for Eating Disorders. You can sign up here: https://www.nedawalk.org/
Eating Disorders are something which impacts the lives of many Americans, as well as people all over the world. The ANAD (National Association of Anorexia Nervosa and Associated Disorders) lists general statistics about Eating Disorders as well as for marginalized groups such as BIPOC, LGBTQ+, People With Disabilities, People in Larger Bodies, Athletes and Veterans. You can learn more about statistics surrounding Eating Disorders by going here: https://anad.org/get-informed/about-eating-disorders/eating-disorders-statistics/
ANAD also offers a network of free Eating Disorder Support Groups to the community, and many are being offered online during the pandemic. This is a great resource for individuals and families who are needing community-based support or are new to the recovery journey. You can find more about their support groups by going here: https://anad.org/get-help/about-our-support-groups/
If you are looking for reading materials to become educated on Eating Disorders and the recovery process, you can find some resources here. Sick Enough by Jennifer Guadiani is a book that helps to provide the medical perspective on the impact of Eating Disorders. You can find it here: https://www.amazon.com/Sick-Enough-Jennifer-L-Gaudiani/dp/0815382456
A great book that is very healing for women who are on the journey of recovery is Eating in the Light of the Moon by Anita Johnson, which provides metaphors and story telling to aid in the healing journey. You can find it here: https://www.amazon.com/Eating-Light-Moon-Relationship-Storytelling/dp/0936077360
If you are interested in reading about the person journey of someone who has also gone through the recovery process, Life Without Ed by Jenni Schaefer provides a perspective on Eating Disorders as a relationship. You can find it here: https://www.amazon.com/Life-Without-Ed-Declared-Independence/dp/0071422986 Jenni Schaefer also has a second book about her healing journey called Goodbye Ed, Hello Me. You can find it here: https://www.amazon.com/Goodbye-Ed-Hello-Me-Disorder/dp/0071608877
If you are looking for interactive reading materials on improving relationship with food, adopting an All Foods Fit mentality, and challenging diet culture, The Intuitive Eating Workbook by Evelyn Tribole might be a good fit for what you are looking for. You can find it here: https://www.amazon.com/Intuitive-Eating-Revolutionary-Program-Works/dp/1250004047
If you are looking to challenge diet culture expectations on body size and cultivate acceptance for body diversity, Health At Every Size by Linda Bacon is a great resource to look into. You can find it here: https://www.amazon.com/Health-At-Every-Size-Surprising/dp/1935618253 In line with the HAES philosophy is the concept of Joyful Movement. It can be healing to reframe your relationship with body and relationship with movement by finding movement that feels joyful in the body, versus exercising as compensation or punishment.
If you’re looking for a podcast to listen to, Christie Harrison has a podcast focused on supporting the recovery process and challenging diet culture. You can find her podcast here: https://christyharrison.com/foodpsych and you can also find her book, Anti-Diet, here: https://www.amazon.com/Anti-Diet-Reclaim-Well-Being-Happiness-Intuitive/dp/0316420352
If you are a professional who wants to look into supporting those in recovery from an Eating Disorder, you can connect with organizations like International Association of Eating Disorders Professionals and look into becoming a Certified Eating Disorder Specialist. You can find more about IADEP by going here: http://www.iaedp.com/about-us/ There are also some amazing treatment centers that offer free online trainings for professions to get CEU courses on treating Eating Disorders. One such center is Alsana, you can find more information by going here: https://www.alsana.com/events-calendar/
Most importantly, if you or someone you care about is struggling with disordered eating, or a negative relationship with food or their body, know that help is available. It can be healing to connect with a therapist and a dietitian who understands Eating Disorders and can help you on your journey of recovery.
– Alejandra Rose, LMFT
by admin | Feb 23, 2021 | community
Black History Month is the perfect time to give back to the community. It is important to go beyond the common “like,” “comment,” and “share” type of support, and to really get connected to the community. There are a lot of ways that you can celebrate Black History Month, and so we have put together a collection of resources to share with others who are also looking to get involved with either educating themselves or giving back to the community.
- Give back by making a charitable donation to an organization that supports the community. You can find some information about charities to donate to by going here: https://www.charities.org/news/celebrating-agents-change-black-history-month Give back to a Black led non-profit organization. You can find some information by going here: https://www.everyaction.com/blog/22-black-led-nonprofits-making-history Give back to organizations that promote Black leadership. You can find some information by going here: https://www.surgeinstitute.org/why-we-surge/ Give back to organizations that support Black system involved youth. You can find more information by going here: https://crittentonsocal.org/what-we-do/ Give back to Black owned organizations that focus on ending Commercial Sexual Exploitation of Children and attend trainings to learn more. You can find more information by going here: http://www.nolabrantleyspeaks.org/
- Support Black owned businesses in your local community. You can find a section on Uber Eats this month that includes Black owned restaurants in your area, and Uber Eats also donates $1 per order. Or you can find some information for Orange County Black owned restaurants by going here: https://www.orangecoast.com/features/black-owned-businesses-and-organizations/
- Read about how February became Black History Month and become educated on why it is so important to honor and uphold this tradition. You can find more information by going here: https://time.com/4197928/history-black-history-month/
- Educate yourself on Black History Month by watching documentaries. You can find more information by going here: https://www.kpbs.org/news/2020/jun/10/13-free-documentaries-and-shows-about-black-histor/ and here: http://www.pbs.org/black-culture/explore/10-black-history-documentaries-to-watch/
- Watch movies that support Black actors. Most streaming services have a dedicated section for celebrating Black History Month. You can find more information by going here: https://www.goodhousekeeping.com/life/entertainment/g35349723/black-history-movies/ and here: https://www.fastcompany.com/90598537/91-movies-and-tv-shows-to-stream-for-black-history-month
- Educate yourself by listening to podcasts centered around black History and race. You can find more information by going here: https://www.thehandbook.com/10-podcasts-to-educate-yourself-with-this-black-history-month/
- Support Black authors by purchasing a book and adding it to your reading list. You can find more information by going here: https://www.today.com/shop/books-black-history-month-t206986
- Attend a yoga class led by a Black teacher to help uplift and amplify Black voices in the yoga community. You can find more information by going here: https://directory.yogagreenbook.com/black-owned-yoga-studios-los-angeles/ and here: https://directory.yogagreenbook.com/directory/black-yogis-california/
Most importantly, do not stop showing support once March 1st comes around. We can support and uplift the Black community, and we should, 365 days a year (or 366 days in a leap year).
– Alejandra Rose, LMFT